How to survive job rejection

“True success is overcoming the fear of being unsuccessful.” - Paul Sweeney, Author

As humans, none of us enjoy the feeling of being rejected, whether it is being rejected for a mortgage or after a job interview! The bottom line is that rejection is never a pleasant feeling and one that can deter so many of us from achieving our aspirations, as we refrain from putting ourselves into situations that will lead to that feeling of being unsuccessful.

Rejection is however an aspect of everyday life and something that we will all experience. We should therefore learn how to cope with it.

Whether you’re a graduate that is soon to delve into the competitive job market, a school leaver trying to find your first entry level role or you’re an experienced professional looking for that next role to further your career it is most likely that you will experience rejection on your journey to finding that new role!

If you have recently experienced rejection from a job, do not take it personally, but read our advice on how to learn from it!

Gaining Feedback  

Contacting the employer who rejected you always seems like a frightening action! But, this feedback could end up being extremely useful to landing your dream role. If you have gone through a recruiter you may find that this feedback is easier to obtain, as they will generally have a relationship with the employer. Nonetheless, if you have applied directly there is no harm in asking (you have after all taken the time to apply or attend the interview).

You can email or phone your contact, we would advise either a week following your interview or when the advised timeframe for hearing back from the contact has ended. Make sure you stress how important their feedback is to you, your enthusiasm for the role and thank them for their time.  Creating a good impression is still important, as they may retain your details for any future vacancies.

Some employers will not offer feedback, but there is no harm in following up with another email, if you do not receive a response. Just make sure not to pester them or come across as rude. If you also need them to elaborate on their feedback there is no harm asking further questions.

Remember this is your chance to learn where you may have gone wrong and what your strengths are. You can then use this feedback for your next application or interview.

Gaining Experience

Firstly, ask yourself these questions – Was I lacking crucial experience or skills needed for the role? What skills or experience did the successful candidate have?

Any graduate or school leaver has heard the phrase “you interviewed well, but there were other candidates with more experience?”. This can be extremely frustrating to hear and you end up asking yourself “how can I gain the experience, if no one will give me the opportunity?”.

There are ways that you can build up your CV and working part time or being unemployed is an opportunity to gain the skills that you need, as you have free time. Ways to gain that experience could be volunteering for a charity, the local community or a business. Businesses are always keen to take on volunteers and this could be your chance to gain valuable experience. Internships are also a great way to boost the skills on your CV.   

Improving your Chances

Other ways of improving your chances of landing that dream role could be:
·         Attending CV workshops
·         Signing up with recruitment agencies
·         Signing up to job boards
·         Using social media – social media is becoming extremely popular for networking and employers are using it as a platform to advertise jobs.
          This can therefore be a way for you to utilise the time you spend on twitter, Facebook, LinkedIn and Instagram
·         Network – Speak to friends, families and acquaintances and find out how they got to their job and if they have any advice or contacts
​           that you can speak to

Remember to stay positive! It can be disheartening being rejected for a job, but if you keep trying and continue to build your experience then you will land that role. It is important to remember your skillset /experience and make sure you are being realistic for the roles that you are applying for. Nonetheless, if you keep trying you will land that job!